The Power In What We Say…

Hi Everybody!  Although I have written before on the importance of positive communication, it definitely bears repeating.  Whenever we speak, the words we use do not just evaporate!  Words are containers of power and great influence—either for the good or the bad—depending on the words we choose to use.  What we say and the words that we use can lead to serious trouble.

I’m reminded of an anecdote about a hotheaded woman who once approached the great evangelist John Wesley and said, “My talent is to speak my mind.” Rev. Wesley simply replied, “Woman, God wouldn’t care a bit if you would bury that talent.”

Throughout the Bible God warns us about our tongues for good reason!

Proverbs 10:19:  When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise.

Proverbs 12:18:  Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.

Proverbs 17:27:  A man of knowledge uses words with restraint, and a man of understanding is even-tempered.

Proverbs 17:28:  Even a fool, when he keeps silent, is considered wise.

Proverbs 18:21:  Live and death are in the power of the tongue…And those who love it will eat its fruit.

The power of words is such that if we’re not careful, words can destroy our marriage, family, relationships in general, and our reputation.  When consumed in the emotional heat of an argument with your spouse, how often have you spewed caustic, negative words to them?  How often have you torn down your spouse by being sarcastic (aka an insult wrapped in humor), critical, judgmental, or demeaning?  How often do you speak loving, appreciative, or encouraging words to them?  What kind of response do you get when you speak in negative or positive words?  Words are powerful! Choose your words carefully!  Wisdom is the ability to make Godly choices.  Make Godly choices in how you speak to others—build others up, be an encourager, and learn to confront issues and problem-solve in ways in which everyone involved feels good about the interaction.  Make it a point to notice the good in others and tell them.   Be appreciative and loving toward others, especially your spouse.

Proverbs 15:4:  A gentle tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit.

Proverbs 16:24:  Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the bones.

It seems to be human nature to gravitate toward the negative, and being negative can be a hard habit to break.  Starting right now, make a commitment to be mindful and intentional about speaking positive things into the lives of your loved ones and watch what happens!  Trust me, over time you will get back more than you give from those around you!  As you daily practice being a positive person, eventually you won’t even have to think about it, it will be so natural that it will just be who you are!

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3 Responses to The Power In What We Say…

  1. Janet Cuip says:

    tTHANK YOU FOR THIS MESSAGE ON THE POWER OF YOUR WORDS. I have FOUND IT TRUE THAT IN GIVING ENCOURAGEMENT YOU RECIEVE MUCH EMPOWERMENT IN YOUR OWN LIFE . This nature of being positive does indeed become a habit. With time you will see the glass as half full. Prayer and asking God for wisdom and words always helps. Ask Him to help you find the good in all the irregular people he,ll put in your path. Everyone comes to teach us and leave a mark. I want my tombstone to say God I used everything you gave me and above all else I relyed on you to help me love others through my actions and my words. Today I had 16 parent teacher conferences and I had the privledge of watching the words of encouragement take flight. We all can make a difference in someones life. Thank you for all your great work Dr. Janet! Your sister in Christ, Janet Cuip

    • Janet says:

      Dear Readers,
      Thank you for the kind and encouraging comments! I’m so glad you’re finding my blog helpful! I’m excited about the prospect of reaching more and more people with helpful marriage advice based not only on sound psychological principles, but, more importantly, on the Word of God. Have a blessed day! Yours in Christ, Janet

  2. Joan says:

    Hey everyone, please join us, lets here from you, please don’t just read, “JOIN”

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